the hyphens that define my life

Friends Forever August 14, 2013

Filed under: Life — multihyphenatedme @ 10:40 pm

As we anxiously await the arrival of Trace’s best friend, KP, our first non-relative visitor, for a week-long visit, I think about all of my moves and the friends I’ve made along the way.  I’m happy to report that I’m friends with many still, not best friends, but connected enough to know that if I knocked on their door, or they knocked on mine, we would be welcomed with open arms.This could be totally naive on my part, maybe they’d slam the door in my face, but I would embrace them just for the memories and the effort.

Being the freak magnet that I am, I attract people and befriend them quickly, it’s my own freak nature. I love people and appreciate their life, their challenges, their talents and their weirdness.  Don’t worry, I’m human, I judge, though I scold myself for doing so, its human nature.  I’ll tell you what I think if you really want to know. [insert winking smiley face here].

I had to look up the definition of friend on just to give myself some boundaries.




1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2. a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter: friends of the Boston Symphony.
3. a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile: Who goes there? Friend or foe?
4. a member of the same nation, party, etc.
5. ( initial capital letter ) a member of the Religious Society of Friends; a Quaker.
Apparently there are no boundaries, we are all friends.  Awesome.
Will Trace and KP’s friendship survive the move, the separation, and time? With Facebook, Skype, text, the interactive video games and future technological advancements, I can easily say yes.  Will they remain BFFs? People grow, people change, who can say what will happen, no crystal ball here.
My BFFs throughout my life are still connected with me in some way, as far back as kindergarten.  Are we close?  No. In fact, I haven’t seen my elementary school chums since I moved away the summer after my 5th grade year.  By the power of Facebook and LinkedIn, we are up on each others lives.
KP just arrived.  I’m choked up seeing him and he gave me a big hug. That’s it.  They are going to be best friends for ever and freaking ever if I have anything to say about it. They are just too damn cute together.  They can have other BFFs but their natural kinship is heartwarming.
Damn, that means I’m going to have to hang out with his mother forever.  [and my boys say I can’t play the sarcasm game]. Good thing she is a total riot and the most efficient person on the planet.  I am so thankful she trusts me enough to care for her boy.  Of course this could be her way of torturing me.  Let’s see how the next 7 days unfold.
[With the brothers in tow, no one will hold still long enough for a photo.] Envision 4 boys, two are age 12, one calm 9 year old and one scrappy 7 year old racing around the house.  Welcome to my life.

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