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the hyphens that define my life

T-28 Circus Act May 23, 2013

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I only got 24 hours to live, and I ain’t going to waste it here.  – Fly, Bug’s Life

I love this line from Bug’s Life.  In case you missed out on watching this Disney/Pixar creation at least 100 times in recent years as the result of having children, this line is delivered in response to the sorry state of P.T. Flea’s circus act.  The flies leave in the middle of the show. Exit, stage right.

I like this quote because it challenges you to ask yourself, in general terms, are you living the life you want to live?  More specifically, if you only had 24 hours to live, would you be doing what you are doing right now in this moment?  I think most of us would say no.  You don’t have to be dying to start living.

Based on everything I know (which could very well be not much), my life expectancy is greater than 24 hours.  Pressure off. If I were on my deathbed, reflecting back on the life I’ve lived, would I be happy with the choices I’ve made thus far? In making future decisions, I question whether the decision going to be something I’ll be happy with in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years?

The wise fly also reminds us that nothing lasts forever and to seize the moments that we have.  Are we going to sit around and wait for this circus act to end or are you going to pack up and move out and see where the road takes you? Or move on to the next gig in town? Or just try something new and different from your current habits.

We’re sad to leave our family, friends, favorite places, schools, neighbors, teammates and life as we know it. Our time here has not been a waste or in vain.  Though it has often times resembled a three ring circus and we each have played our share of roles – the ring leader, the lion tamer, the dog jumping through the hoops and the clown (note:  I didn’t say fool).

We are ready to pack up and move, seeking out a new path and a new adventure in Spokane.  Is it the right decision? We don’t know.  It’s right for right now.  The beauty of decision making is that you can always course correct, make a new decision and try something new.

 

T-29 Soccer Success!! May 22, 2013

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Our oldest son plays competitive soccer.  We have all been fortunate to be part of an awesome signature team, JUSA Crew, now club Chelsea 00 Blue, in Placentia.  Leaving this team in order to move to Spokane was a really difficult decision. The coaches are great, the players are talented and good kids too for a bunch of scrappy 12 year olds.

We knew we had to get our son on a new soccer team in Spokane as soon as possible to help him through the transition.    Internet research, phone calls and emails to various teams, organizations, clubs and random people were made in attempts to find the best team options for our #33.

My son and I took a 4-day trip to Spokane in April to meet and try out with three different soccer teams.  One was lame, we said no thanks.  The second was great and the third had potential.  Tryouts with the second and third teams went well and we were told we’d know the outcome the week of May 20.

The week is here and we are happy – thrilled – to report that our son was selected for the Premier Club team with FC Spokane.

Soccer team – check.  [sigh with relief].

 

T-30 Countdown to Spokane May 21, 2013

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“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiousity keeps leading us down new paths”.  ~ Walt Disney

We are moving.

We decided to move our family from Southern California to Spokane Washington. We’re writing a new chapter to improve our quality of life with lower cost of living, no state income tax, better schools with smaller class sizes, easier access to outdoor activities we enjoy – skiing, boating, waterskiing, fishing, camping, and hunting.

My husband and I are a curious pair.  In many ways, all puns intended. Disney’s quote is true to our lives, our “…curiousity keeps leading us down new paths.”

Why are we moving to Spokane?  Why not? We’ve never lived there before, the pluses out number the minuses, it is an adventure and we’re tired of being SoCal house and life poor though we work hard and make good money. Many people make Southern California living work, it is just not the lifestyle for us.

We look forward to our the journey on our new path.

T-30.  The countdown begins.

 

Goodbye 2012 December 31, 2012

Goodbye 2012.

It has been a good year overall.

I started a blog, this blog, multi-hyphenated-me.  Though only 8 posts this year, I love it and have big plans for the future.  I lived up to, or tried to live up to, my hyphens, every day.

My 7 month foot saga put me back in touch with my old friend Reading. Perhaps due to many Ohio winters with not much else to do or maybe it is the escape from reality that is reading’s gift, in either case, I have always been a reader.  Being a project person and needing a project that would keep me down and resting while my foot recovered, I turned to reading.  I decided to read all of the New York and Los Angeles Best Sellers , fiction, non fiction, children’s, hardback and paperback.  It was mid-January when I started this project and it was sometime in February that I realized I had to scale back the lists in order to be somewhat manageable.  The LA Times fiction nonfiction hardcover and paperback lists were my source of material.  The Public Library was my resource.  I’m happy to report that I have read 134 books in eleven and half months, roughly 12 books a month.  I have so many favorites.  I learned so much and was reminded of things I have known and lived and seen. There were a few books that were wasteful of my time spent reading them but I learned from them too. I travelled from Machu Picchu to Africa to Paris to India and points in between.  I cried.  Sobbed.  I laughed and laughed.  The library staff knows me by name. The intelligent, literary conversations I had with so many in discussing books was truly one of the highlights of this journey.  On Facebook I “liked” “The Book Isn’t Dead” Community and have been inspired by discussions and quotes and moments. This journey inspired me to be the Book Fair Chairperson with the elementary school PTA where we had our most profitable sale to date.  From my Book Fair experience and my frequent trips to the library, I learned about Battle of the Books and rallied 5 twelve year olds to form a team and read.  I was asked months ago if I would keep up the reading pace, off the same reading list in 2013.  My answer then and remains, no.  Will I continue to read?  Of course! To focus on the best-selling Pattersons, Silvas, Picoults, et al is a huge oversight to the countless great writers out there with books that deserve to be read. The best part is to say, because of this project, I have grown.

My foot finally healed and I embraced the ability to move.  I ran three 5 ks and one 8k.  My friend and I walked/ran 95+ miles in the month of August, in the wee hours of the morning before we had to go to work.

We, as a family, spent great time together.  Camping trips in the Santa Ynez mountains and at the Kern River.  An awesome house rental in Palm Springs, and resort living in San Diego.  Summer was filled with trips to the beach, the water slide park, movies and parks. We experienced the multi-facets of Southern California.

Successfully raising a child is one of life’s greatest rewards.  To bear witness to my daughter graduating high school is a huge milestone for me.  I am so proud of her.  It wasn’t until she finished her first 16 collegiate units that I realized how quickly the next phase of her life, the college years, would pass.  My work here is not complete, nor will it ever be.  Our boys are quickly aging up too and their perspectives and antics are heartwarming and hand wringing, usually at the same time.

This was my year of fundraising.  Or was it my year of baking?  A fantastic combination of both.  What I learned most, or what was reinforced most  from these efforts was the incredible group of friends and coworkers that support me and have major sugar addictions.  Thank you. I will keep you supplied.

This year, as a recruiter, I regained footing lost on the slippery slope of the recession. It feels great to have traction, being back in the groove, doing what I love.  The icing is that I get to work with awesome people at an amazing company too.  The chapter “How to Get a Job” in Augusten Burroughs book, This is How.  Any recruiting advice that starts with a dual personality reference to the movie Sybil  and the person we become when interviewing is terrific.   “The truth is:  You are only the person you actually are; you may not may not be the person they actually want.” This is How is one of my favorites and a book everyone should read.

As my boss tells me, with all on my plate, something has to give.  He’s right, just don’t tell him I said so. As much as I feel I accomplished this year, the counterbalance is that I didn’t stay on diets I self prescribed, or lose the weight I wanted to lose (with all that mileage you would think…). I didn’t travel to all the places I wanted to go.  I could have been a better wife, mother, friend, person, employee, better in all of my roles.  My garden could have been better.  I still can’t hula hoop. Something does have to give.  Figuring out that something every day is the challenge.

Two Thousand Twelve was good to me and my family and we lived life well. For this I am thankful and know we are blessed. Thank you for sharing this year with me.

2012 Reading List

*books I enjoyed

Fiction

  1. The Book Thief*
  2. Extremely Loud Incredibly Close*
  3. The Marriage Plot
  4. The Art of Fielding*
  5. 1Q84*
  6. The Goon Squad
  7. Tinker Tailor Sodier Spy
  8. The Paris Wife*
  9. Against All Enemies
  10. Bonnie
  11. Then Again
  12. The Drop
  13. The Sense of An Ending
  14. Private #1 Suspect
  15. Breakdown
  16. Believing the Lie
  17. Raylan
  18. Death Comes to Pemberly
  19. Defending Jacob
  20. Homefront*
  21. The Summer Garden
  22. Kill Shot
  23. What We Talk About When We Talk About Anne Frank
  24. Dreams of Joy*
  25. 44 Charles Street
  26. The 9th Judgment
  27. Celebrity in Death
  28. War Horse*
  29. Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children*
  30. Night Road*
  31. Capture of the Earl of Glencrae
  32. The Starboard Sea*
  33. Sacre Bleu*
  34. Fifty Shades of Grey
  35. Fifty Shades Darker
  36. Fifty Shades Freed
  37. The Fault In Our Stars*
  38. The Lucky One*
  39. Calico Joe*
  40. All There Is*
  41. State of Wonder*
  42. Istanbul Passage *
  43. The Kings of Cool
  44. Beautiful Ruins*
  45. Private Games*
  46. Guilty Wives*
  47. Bones are Forever*
  48. The Beautiful Mystery*
  49. The Night Circus*
  50. The Next Best Thing*
  51. The Prisoner of Heaven*
  52. A Hologram fro the King
  53. Mission to Paris*
  54. The Age of Miracles*
  55. Where’d You Go, Bernadette?*
  56. Creole Bell*
  57. The Fallen Angel*
  58. Shadow of Night*
  59. The Life of Pi*
  60. Broken Harbor*
  61. 3rd Wheel Diary of a Whimpy Kid
  62. Invention of Hugo Cabret*
  63. The Timekeeper*
  64. Zoo
  65. Notorious Nineteen
  66. In One Person*
  67. The Perks of Being a Wallflower*
  68. Gone Girl*

Non Fiction

  1. Bossypants*
  2. Outliers: the story of success*
  3. Unbroken*
  4. Heaven is For Real
  5. Steve Jobs
  6. Elizabeth the Queen
  7. The Obamas
  8. Ameritopia
  9. Quiet: The Power of Introverts
  10. The Power of Habit*
  11. Wild*
  12. Bringing Up Bebe
  13. Killing Lincoln*
  14. Blue Nights
  15. Full Service
  16. Take the Stairs*
  17. Great by Choice*
  18. The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks*
  19. Thinking Fast and Slow*
  20. The 17 Day Diet
  21. Taking People With You
  22. Abundance*
  23. Moneyball
  24. The Big Short
  25. Tipping Point*
  26. I Am A Pole*
  27. Turn Right at Machu Pichu*
  28. Pioneer Woman Cooks
  29. Behind the Beautiful Forevers*
  30. The 5 Love Languages*
  31. The Happiness Project*
  32. Days of Destruction, Days of Revolt*
  33. I Remember Nothing
  34. The Vow
  35. Paris versus New York*
  36. The Irish Americans
  37. It Worked for Me
  38. Cronkite
  39. Mortality*
  40.  How to Be a Woman
  41. I Hate Everything Starting with Me
  42. Yes Chef
  43. Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness*
  44. Not Taco Bell Material
  45. Farther Away*
  46. A Natural Woman*
  47. Go the F*** to Sleep*
  48. American Grown*
  49. Boomerang
  50. Blood Bones and Butter*
  51. The Mobile Wave
  52. The Amateur
  53. My Berlin Kitchen*
  54. Sh*itty Mom
  55. Moonwalking with Einstein*
  56. Drift
  57. Help Thanks Wow*
  58. America Again
  59. Along the Way*
  60. The Grand Design
  61. Joseph Anton
  62. F in Exams
  63. Dearie
  64. Strength Finders 2.0
  65. This is How*
  66. Darth Vader & Son

 

 

 

 

The Day After November 19, 2012

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We typically host Thanksgiving every year.  This year, however, we wanted to escape the issues and chaos and crazy that comes with bringing the extended family together (yes, I said it). We wanted to boycott Thanksgiving.  We are thankful. We give thanks daily. Yet, we were ready to head out of town and make reservations, just us.  Some do this annually, I have only had Thanksgiving in a restaurant once in my 44 years.  For the past 15 years, I have cooked. I love the tradition, but this year, I wanted a break (or read this as an escape). In October, I was making a list of restaurants to check out their Thanksgiving menus and plans.

In less than 30 days to Thanksgiving, a whole lot of life happened in our family on multiple levels, from coast to coast.  Our reality was checked. The realization that time is fleeting and the reminder that life gives guarantees were upon us.  Ready or not, Thanksgiving is a time to bring family together. Our decision changed from reservations to hosting Thanksgiving Dinner.

With two weeks to plan, evites were sent, tables and chairs reserved and the menu was planned. Thanksgiving Dinner for 20 was in the works.  To accomodate all, Thanksgiving would have to happen on the Sunday prior, not the traditional Thanksgiving Thursday.  In our house, every day is a day to give thanks, so spin the wheel, pick a day, and get the party started.

We celebrated yesterday. Considering I started from a mindset of running the opposite direction, away from Thanksgiving with the extended family, our Thanksgiving celebration was our best ever.  Though I am sure this has something to do with family togetherness, I am thankful for my keep-it-simple-yet-fabulous menu:

Roast Turkey (stuff it, season with sage, salt and pepper, roast it).  23 pounds this year.

Stuffing with Giblets (bread cubes, butter, stock, giblets, herbs and spices)

Mashed Potatoes (potatoes peeled by my 18, 11 and 8 year olds taste amazing!)

Gravy – Gravy makes the meal.  I put a lot of time into making a great stock the day before (roasted turkey wings, onions, shallots, leeks, carrots, celery, peppercorns, bay leaf, garlic, parsley and salt; cook for 5 hours).  This delicious, dark, rich stock makes a terrific gravy, especially when stirred into a frenzy by my sister-in-love.

Choucroute au Champagne (James Beard) – kraut is good, prepared this way, incredible

Brown Sugar Glazed Yams – bake the yams whole the day before.  Day of, peel, chop and cover with a struesel of brown sugar and melted butter; bake until heated through.

Whole Cranberry Sauce – cranberries, sugar, water.   Keep it simple.

Waldorf Salad – This salad has many variations.  Ours consists of apples, grapes, walnuts, celery, lemon juice, mayo, whipped cream, nutmeg.  My favorite part of this salad is putting it on my turkey sandwich with a spread of cranberry sauce on the days following the feast.

Roasted Brussel Sprouts – Trim and halve sprouts, toss with olive oil and salt.  Roast on baking sheet until browned.   My girl did a great job trimming, cleaning and halving.

Green Beans – I love green bean casserole, I really do. Really, really.  This year, I couldn’t do it. I needed something pure and green and simple.  Haricort verts blanched, topped with butter.

Corn – Corn is the great safety net of life.  My 7 year old loves to open cans.  This was one of his contributions to the meal. How could I resist?  Straight from the can, microwave blasted. Classy.

Parker House Rolls – making your own bread on Thanksgiving is a must.  Use a bread maker if you must but make your own bread.  These rolls are easy to make (I used Martha Stewart’s recipe for our shared love of butter; Bon Appetit has a recipe in their November 2012 issue too).  If you can get your European brother in law to rave about your bread you know you found a winning recipe.

We also had an off-menu fruit salad studded with mini marshmallows added and prepared by my knife weilding seven year old fruit ninja.

Don’t forget dessert.

Date Bars – My Grandmother’s recipe that I cherish. A Thanksgiving tradition as far back as I can remember.  Even if I made reservations, I would still make date bars.

Pies – Yum.  Pumpkin, Pecan and Harvest (comination of apple, pear and cranberry).  Does anything get better in life than pie with homemade crust? No. It only improves with homemade whipped cream on top. Mmmmmmmmm.

I don’t delegate when I cook, admittedly, a cooking control freak. Maybe I’ll work on this, probably not. If you’re not cooking, word to the wise, bring wine or a beverage of choice.

Today, the day after, while drinking my morning coffee and nibbling on date bars (YUM!), I look back, and though it was two days of serious work, the outcome was worth the effort.  I am thankful for family, the joy on my mother-in-law’s face having her children and their children together, the cousin’s giggles and endless play action, and the photos taken to keep the memories alive. Thanks to our family for always ready to eat. Thanks be given to my husband for taking care of the honey-do list and to my daughter/sous chef-in-training for her diligent efforts and for my boys for being there when I needed them and staying clear mostly.  I am thankful for another year of cooking and delicious food.

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

80 days of Summer June 25, 2012

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The kids counted from the day they got out of school until the day they go back.  We have 80 days of summer, weekends and holidays included, to take advantage of the season.  We’ve boycotted day care summer camps and summer school and planned daily good summer fun.

Each week is themed, each day has a rough plan to keep everyone busy. Each day includes brain work (anything from puzzles, workbooks, reading, and such), chores (of course the kids think WHAT? It’s summer!  and I see it as free child slave labor), and an adventure or activity that gets us out of the house while still managing a full time work schedule.  Creative planning required to pull off my 9 hour+ work days.  All work and no play is dull.  Our weeks are sweetened with a different homemade ice cream on Sundays!

We began our adventure by tent camping 3 nights on the Kern River with a group of friends.  The river was cold and low and slow but provided plenty of entertainment with rafting and fishing and soaking. We also took a beautiful drive and fun hike at the Trail of 100 Giants in the Sequoias. Camping week ended with a lot of laundry and Fresh Strawberry Ice Cream!!

Weekly themes include Camping (check!); California Style; History; Science; Crafts; Culture; Fun & Fitness; Myths & Legends; Animal Planet; Oceanography; and All Ball.  Each week includes Movie/Museum; Beach; Soak City/Knotts; Picnic at the Park; and a Bike Ride/Hike.  We have  couple of trips planned to Palm Springs and San Diego too.  Mom is another name for Camp Director right?

What was Rory Vaden’s quote from my prior post?  The moment you tell yourself you’re too busy is the moment you stop thinking creatively about how to get other potentially important items into your schedule and your routine.”

He also states that “Balance shouldn’t mean equal time spent on equal activities. Balance should mean appropriate time spent on critical priorities.”

Whether I’m practicing the art of balancing by either definition or juggling my multi-hyphenated life,  my main goal for the summer is to learn how to hula hoop.  Somehow I missed out on this lesson as a kid.

Hurray for summer!